Is it Cinco de Mayo yet?! I could really go for a margarita is anyone else with me? Well it is hump day right!? 🙂 Okay guys I have a fair warning before getting into this post. It will be a little deep and you will see another side of me that maybe hasn’t been shown in any post or social. I’m a little scared but I feel like it’s something I need to talk about. It’s about 3 blogging lessons I’ve learned since starting my blog.
You’re probably wondering what I mean by that. More or less I’ve been doing this for nine months and I’ve come to find something’s about myself in this blogging world. I’ve also learned about how others outside perceive things inside this world and kind of just wanted to talk about it. I’m going to list a couple because I’m sure there are a ton more that I’ve yet find out about.
Lesson 1: You are not going to be everyone’s cup of tea
There are so many different bloggers! You have fashion, lifestyle, food, mommy, spiritual, beauty, etc. Not only that every single one in those categories all have a different way of doing things and a different style. If you ever get a negative comment just look past it. I know it’s hard (trust me). You start to doubt yourself and your craft but don’t. Don’t give in because for that one negative you will get 15 positives. Do you because there are people that love it!
Lesson 2: Be Confident!
This is so much easier said than done I know. There are days where I find myself not being the most confident. I mean I’m a girl so we all know that every month things come to us girls that we don’t like. When I go take pictures I don’t feel pretty, sexy, or anywhere near like I can really sell this dress. On top of that I really don’t want to go take pictures. That’s another thing pictures.
Bloggers are seen as being vain and the industry is seen as materialistic and shallow. It’s much more than that and believe me the confidence level to even go out and take pictures is tough. When I first started blogging I was always so scared to take pictures. Let alone do a photoshoot with 5 outfits. Even after blogging for 9 months certain things still get me very nervous.
Lesson 3: Be True to Yourself
A little back story about me. I was very nervous to start blogging. I knew I was going into this huge crazy blogging world and had no idea what to expect. I knew I wanted to talk about fashion but let me tell you… I was scared. The reason I was scared is because I didn’t have the confidence. I wasn’t your typical blogger or at least the larger bloggers. I wasn’t tall and skinny. I am 5’1 and wear a size 8 in jeans. I didn’t fit that “fashion blogger picture.” Not going to lie, I almost didn’t start this blog because of being scared.
But you know what forget what the norm is. Break that norm and be yourself! Trust me I totally am! If you are comfortable in your own body and are feeling fabulous, then be fabulous girl! Don’t try to fit in that blogger picture. I love seeing people be themselves and just being authentic. I can relate to authenticity more than a mold.
I hope you guys enjoyed this post! This is just coming from the bottom of my heart and I’m not here to offend anyone. We all go into different journeys and learn different things and I would love to hear what you have learned on your experience.
Have a great Wednesday!
XOXO,
Silvia M.
Crystal // Dreams, etc. says
Love this! I really appreciated that you went deeper than “blogging is hard work” and really got down to the personal side of blogging. It’s scary to put yourself out there (and I don’t even post pictures of myself that much!), but it is rewarding if you push past the fear. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing this post! 🙂
Silvia says
Omg you have no idea how much this means to me! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’m still pushing everyday and hope that it becomes easier.
Erica @ Coming Up Roses says
Amen amen aaaaaaand AMEN! Also I’m with ya 10000% on the margarita.
Coming Up Roses
Silvia says
Thanks Erica!
Mary says
Love it ! Thanks for share ! ❤️❤️❤️
Silvia says
Thanks Mary!
fairyprincessjord says
Love love love this post girl! I could not agree more! Over the past four years I’ve had a few negative comments on my blog but I try to just brush off anything mean and take any constructive criticism to try and improve. I think it is great to see passionate and fresh energetic bloggers like you in the blogosphere. You always have a positive disposition and unique twist on your posts!
Silvia says
Omg you are so sweet! Thank you for the support and thank you so much for understanding!
Summer Telban (@SummerTelban) says
LOVED these, Silvia! Learning to be more confident is one of my blogging lessons too, for sure. Love this outfit, btw! Those shorts are too cute!
Silvia says
Thanks Summer!
Annette Dattilo says
Awesome post Silvia. I loved hearing your thoughts on the subject. It is so true that being ourselves is best. I too am way more interested in authenticity than anything else. I love love love your blog and what you have made of it. Keep it up girl. 💛
Silvia says
Thanks Annette! You’ve been such a good friend and I’m glad I can talk to you about some of these things!
Laura says
The struggle and fear is real! I’m a lifestyle blogger but I’m still afraid to take photos in public with my tripod.
But confidence is beautiful! You’re on the right track 🙂 you’ve figured out some important lessons early
Xxox
Laura @ http://www.cookwineandthinker.com
Silvia says
Thanks Laura! You will get the confidence to get out there and take all those pictures. It took me a while too but it will get better!
Caitlyn Stone says
Power to you for not letting fear hold you back from starting your blog! I’ve never been one to shy away from picture taking. I’m honestly that person who getting mad, not embarrassed, when someone catches me taking a selfie or an outfit pic because it means they ruined it!
Silvia says
Haha omg I need to be more like you!
Virjinia says
Thanks for sharing about this! I totally feel you about this. Not everyone will enjoy our blogs but there’s still people who will support us. You’re a great blogger and I really liked your work!
Silvia says
Thanks Virjinia! Thank you so much for your support!
Kate Simpson says
I love this! Your gorgeous and deserve to be all the confident 🙂
Silvia says
Thank you so much Kate!
Samantha Kuzyk | Raising Twincesses says
Loved this post girl! You do you ’cause you’re awesome! Totally agree with all 3 of your points! Keep up the good work! I love seeing fashion blogs with women of all sizes!
Silvia says
Thank you Samantha! You are so sweet!
jennyblaisdell says
Loving this outfit girl! These are all so true.
Silvia says
Thanks Jenny
Alexis says
I’m very happy that you started your blog! I frequently enjoy reading your posts and appreciate that you’re not the “typical blogger.” Your confidence is contagious. Never forget that and keep it up!
Silvia says
Aww Alexis you are so sweet! You have no idea how much this made me smile! Thank you so much for your continued support!
Angela Amores says
First I love your outfit!! Second I love this post. Yes to confidence, and being okay you aren’t exyz’s cup of tea. You’re awesome!!
Angela
Silvia says
Aww thank you Angela! 🙂
Rachel says
Love these Silvia! Couldnt’ agree more with each of these! And happy you overcame your fear and launched! you have great style and are a great fashion blogger!
Silvia says
Aww thanks Rachel! You are so sweet!
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Super super true!! Because not everyone is going to believe in you either and sometimes you just gotta have faith!
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Silvia says
I agree! Faith and courage is all it takes.
Zayda Cortez says
Hey babe! Awesome post. And to be completely honest, when I met you I thought that girl is so confident and radiant! You just have such a great aura! So happy you did start to blog. I love that you bring diversity to the stereotype of what a blogger looks like. I’m petite too and there’s a ton of women that want to love a blogger that looks and thinks like them! 💖 *hugs*
Silvia says
Omg you are seriously the sweetest! You have no idea how much this made me smile! I thought the same thing about you and love your spirit. *hugs back*
rainbowflash94yahoocom says
What a great post Silvia! I think blogging is such a great way to gain confidence. Your blog has done so well and I can’t believe you’ve only been doing it 9 months!
xoxo A
http://www.southernbelleintraining.com
Silvia says
Thanks girly! You are so sweet!
Amber Starr says
Love this post! I find that the longer I blog, the more I start to not care about others thoughts and I’ve been trying to hard to regain my voice as I feel I held back a bit at the beginning.
Silvia says
Me too! I was holding back at first but it’s slowly pouring out.
Candice Nikeia says
Great tips girl! I needed this reminder! You’re amazing!
Silvia says
I’m glad it helped! 🙂
Nicole Simonetti (@nicoleeigh) says
I think one of the most admirable thing about style bloggers is that they are super confident. it takes a lot to get behind a camera, model an outfit and then find the right words to speak to it! x, nicole // http://www.nicoleeigh.com
Silvia says
It does take a lot of confidence. I’m glad I’ve been able to build it!
Rachel Kennedy Christian says
Love the blush bag! Perfect for Spring!
Silvia says
Thanks girl!
Seydy V says
I really enjoyed your post and I agree 1,000%. I’ve been blogging for about two years now and just recently I decided to be more dedicated and venture out into fashion posts on my blog. At first I was so scared of people judging the way I looked in an outfit I believed looked great on me but after a few shoots, I gained more confidence and I do not mind going out into the city and being myself.
xoxo, Seydy!
http://www.sunflowerviews.blogspot.com
Silvia says
That’s amazing! I was also scared when I first started. Now I just post whatever I think looks good to me!
Coachella says
Such a sweet look! Love this halter top in light blue teamed with floral shorts completed with blue ankle strap heeled sandals. Anyway, halter neck tops are ideal for making a wow impression! They can be dressed up and down with some little tricks! Plus, they are extremely versatile and easy to style. By the way, I have a post about halter tops and ways to wear this Summer 2018, check it: http://standoutlook.com/what-halter-tops-are-on-trend-this-summer-2018/ hope you like my ideas. Overall, thanks for your post!
Xx,
Coachella